The beginning of the year is a popular time to set goals and make positive changes.  But when talking with friends and colleagues, many tell me how they’ve failed one way or another in what they set out to achieve.  Why is that? Discover why New Year Resolutions fail, and how you can make yours a success.

You’re ready to turn over a new leaf.  It’s time.  The holidays are over, you’re 10 lbs. heavier, thanks to Santa the finances are a running a little tighter…the idea of jumping back into the same old routine does not sound appealing to you and it’s time to make some changes!  It’s time to purge the things that draw the life force from you, to reinvigorate and recharge your outlook on life. But notice that many are back to resetting the same goals they set for themselves this time last year? Why? Millions of people follow a similar cycle each year.  Why did their resolutions fail? I want to help you discover why your New Year Resolutions fail so you can avoid the same pitfalls and disappointments.  Here are some tips to ensure you get what you want out of the changes you seek.

How did I get here?

When one decides to quit smoking or lose weight or tackle their toxic relationships, it’s important to first become aware of the habits that resulted in the situation you find yourself in now.

A habit could be defined as “an automatic reaction to a specific situation.”

Many people will turn to a cigarette as an automatic reaction to stress… for many it’s alcohol, or decadent food.  You can probably name scores of automatic reactions to situations in life that in themselves lead to a non-optimum end. It’s important to identify what your habits are and handle any urgent repercussions caused by them.

Here comes the R word – Responsibility

Once you have identified the habits that have most likely served as short-term “solutions” to the stresses and challenges you face in life, it’s important to take responsibility for the broader picture.  Frankly, you are the only one who can genuinely improve your lot in life. Oftentimes the habits we develop are merely coping mechanisms for things we’re perhaps not managing well, or even neglecting.

One must take an honest look at the situations he himself is neglecting, condoning or even creating and use good old-fashioned self-discipline to straighten them out.  Long-term solutions are what we look for here.  Job sucks?  Find a better one.  Marriage falling apart?  Get some marriage counseling.  Bored? That can of beer may look good, but enough of them over time will not make you look good, to say nothing of your mental and spiritual state. Get up and go do something. Learn something. Help someone. The idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

You can’t just remove the unhealthy habits you’ve used to cope with all this time and ignore the underlying situation(s).  Avoid falling straight back into the same old habits you use as coping mechanisms and tackle what drives you to them.  That’s the target.


You’re going to need to reorganize aspects of your life and groove in new routines that align with the long-term solutions you’ve put in place.  I like to spend time with people who inspire me and find out what their successful actions are.  They’re usually happy to share their insight with you and they offer very simple but powerful tips.  They will also look forward to supporting you, which can help keep you motivated in sticking to your New Year’s Resolutions.

Rules to live by

Let’s face it, old habits die hard and life will present you with plenty of invitations to sink back into them. Common sense rules to live by can help guide you through situations that beckon you back to the same rut you were in this time last year.

What will help remind you of your resolve to improve?  To serve as a flashing red light that you are entering a “relapse” zone?  Whatever it is, its purpose should be to prevent you from falling into the same old patterns.  You’ll need to set up some hard and fast rules to serve as a mantra to guide you through to success and caution you from heading off course.  Consider these your own personal “policies”.

Here are a few general and useful policies you may have been taught or picked up over time in your life.

1.     Treat others the way you wish to be treated.

2.     When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

3.     Don’t judge a book by its cover.

4.     Honesty is the best policy

A list like this can go on and on.

I have several key policies that guide me through the challenges of motherhood, being a wife, a coach, and just in life.  Many of them come from one of my favorite books The Way to Happiness – A Common Sense Guide to Better Living.



If you or someone you know needs help turning over a new leaf, call Carlie for a free consultation. Happy New Year!  714.264.4230

Spiritual life coaching is about reaching across our differences and helping people of any denomination. It is about elevating our connection to our own sense of spirituality, however that is expressed by the individual. As a Life Coach in Orange County, CA, I have assisted people of various faiths while assuring them that there is no need to change their religious beliefs or traditions.

All Denominations Are Welcome & Respected

The key to bridging our differences is seeing how many things that we already have in common, while maintaining  a mutual respect for each others beliefs, traditions and customs. By focusing on improving the person, within their framework of existing beliefs, solutions can be found to help the person overcome spiritually based upset and confusion.

Spiritually based life coaching is about acknowledging that the person is a spiritual being, not a thing or an animal. While we can exhibit animal like reactions, these are not the basis of who we truly are or what we are capable of becoming as a spiritual being. By elevating ourselves in any way, we can increase our connection to what we cherish most, which would include how one worships.

Can Science & Spirituality Co-Exist?

When one studies the great spiritual scholars of the past, they were deeply involved into studying and understanding the nature of life, human beings and how we interact with all aspects of life. While modern science may have tended to invalidate the existence of our spirituality and God, traditionally this has not been the case down through the ages.

As an example, St. Thomas Aquinas believed, “That for the knowledge of any truth whatsoever man needs divine help, that the intellect may be moved by God.” Another example is from the very first discourse of the Buddha, wherein he explains the reality of things in scientific terms of cause and effect. Throughout the Middle Ages, Muslim scholars were leaders in science and mathematics, while also studying other various faiths. None of these scholars left their faith, but in many cases strengthened their own faith seeing the awesome power of the spiritual aspect of life.



Childbirth Trauma Counseling Without Drugs

On February 19, 2013, in trauma, by carlie

As a mother of two young happy and healthy children, I understand what it is like to experience childbirth trauma. Moreover, having had counseling without the use of addictive painkillers or drugs I can state that the same type of life coaching and counseling I render can help tens of thousands of women in Orange County, CA to have the same success.

Childbirth trauma is more common than one may think. While mothers relish the love of their new born, the pain and stress of pregnancy and childbirth itself can leave a lasting effect upon one’s state-of-mind and positive outlook on life. Fortunately, Life Coaching at Athena Personal Development & Coaching can help mothers overcome childbirth trauma in a relatively short period of time.

How Childbirth Trauma Begins

The true story of childbirth trauma is not necessarily after one has their baby. In fact, one could have been traumatized when you were born. There is a part of the mind, the Reactive Mind, which is clearly described in the New York Times bestseller, Dianetics. It is these techniques that we employ to successfully help mothers overcome the trauma of childbirth.

Living Healthy As A Mother

It is also important that mothers continue to consult and work with a competent medical doctor for their nutritional and medical needs. As a professional and licensed Life Coach in Orange County, CA, I know the importance of keeping one’s physical health in prime shape. I coordinate with medical doctors often to ensure mothers are getting the medical care, when needed, as a priority before or during my coaching and counseling sessions. Counseling people who need medical help first is of no use, so be sure to take care of all medical needs first.

How The Counseling Is Rendered

Trauma counseling is delivered in a private setting, not within a group. During the counseling you are fully aware of everything as no hypnosis of any kind is utilized. Before you start your counseling, you are shown a 45-minute educational video that take you step-by-step through the counseling procedures. Once you understand fully how the counseling is rendered, and you have all your questions fully answered, the counselor will then begin to address those issues and traumas that you have had your attention on. Traditionally, most women will need no more than 50 hours of counseling, but most only need 25-30 hours on average.

Call us today, 714-264-4230, for a free consultation on how we may be able to help you, or someone you care about, to overcome childbirth trauma.


When you lose your self-confidence, everything becomes serious, difficult or outright impossible. While self-confidence is something most people would like to build within themselves, they lack the know-how and direction on how to obtain it. A key fundamental to life is the ability to have and forward one’s purpose. Without self-confidence, we cannot sustain the necessary energy and commitment that it takes to make our goals a reality.

Self-confidence and having a high level of self-esteem is a two-way proposition. To increase your self-confidence, you have to understand not only what builds it, but what also what reduces it. If you know why this happens, you can reverse the situation and rebuild your self-esteem. Training and courses are important to learning the essence of “What is self-confidence?” and how to deal with people and situations that undermine the confidence we need so we can succeed and feel fulfilled in our lives. Truly, you can never have too much faith in yourself or your ambitions.

“Training is important as none of us came with an instruction manual on how to live successfully, nor how to deal with negativity.” states Carlie Dearborn. At Athena Personal Development & Coaching, our team has helped thousands of people for over 20 years on discovering the secrets to:

  • What is the true source of security in life?
  • How do self-confidence and self-respect work together to lead to a happier life?
  • What can be done to spot and address negative factors that can wear away at your sense of certainty?
  • Utilizing simple and powerful tools that can be used for the rest of your life.

Here’s a success from our training:

“I have always had trouble with self-confidence, ever since I can remember. I’ve always looked to others for approval rather than myself. Now I know that self-confidence is found in one’s self. I have many comprehensible tools I can apply to my life to ensure I keep my self-confidence.” M.M.

Affordable Courses Offered In Orange County, CA

Athena Personal Development & Coaching has established a series of courses that completely help a person build their self-confidence with real-life tools that can be applied in every situation, regardless if they are applied to business, family, finances or one’s personal dreams. These courses form the core of our successful program to help people transform their lives where almost anything can become a reality. Call Carlie today at 714-264-4230 and find out how to enroll in this life-changing program.

Life Coaching For Women

On August 15, 2012, in women, by carlie

Life Coaching for women is unique, particularly when rendered by a fellow woman. Most coaching and personal development coaches and programs have tended to stress helping men in the work place, or excelling in a business world predominately managed by men.

As women, we often put upon ourselves a huge responsibility to take care of everyone that we love and cherish in our lives. It is so easy to service and assist our families, friends and even those at work. Yet, at the end of the day, there seems that you have very little energy left to give back so as to re-energize ourselves. If you are reading this right now, then it’s time to rejuvenate your body, mind, and spiritual power.

You are a completely unique and magnificent spiritual being with a purpose in life. And that purpose includes becoming happy and having relevance to the world and to yourself. I believe that you complete deserve the very best that life has to offer. You are worthy of living a life filled with loving and healthy relationships – with the most important one with self!

My life coaching program is designed around a women’s needs and a women’s requirements. The answer to any woman’s problems are not gimmicks or promises that you will change everything in 7 days. Just inspirational words and effective life-skills is what any woman needs to get them where they want to be. I focus exclusively on you and your unique issues. I’ll design a personalized programs tailored for you.

What Life Coaching Can Do For Any Woman:

  • Gain possession of the tools you need to reduce stress and manage work.
  • How to smooth out communication so as to improve relationships.
  • The key elements to properly manage money and time effectively.
  • How to cultivate greater self-confidene and thus success and abundance in all areas of your life.
  • Obtain a plan of progress, versus only hope and chance. Happiness can be obtained when you understand.
  • How to stay motivated towards a goal.
  • Dealing with negative people.
  • Gaining an understanding of why you do certain things that you later regret.

Life coaching today is becoming more and more utilized by women for business, personal success and improving relationships. Find out what life coaching can bring about in your life, in terms of positive, life-changing results.




Imagine Achieving Your Most Cherished Goals in Life!

You can become the person you have always wanted to be, and to do the things that you are passionate about AND have greater abundance in life.

The first step to a NEW LIFE begins with YOU. You are a powerful spiritual being with more creativity than there is problems. Have you thought about the kind of life you want to live? If not, then prepare yourself to be adventurous and begin to simply allow the possibility. We as humans are unique in that we are capable of dreaming and achieving BIG deeds.

Realizing our true potential and then setting out to live it can be a bit daunting, leading to stagnation. When we are afraid, we find every possible JUSTIFICATION and EXCUSE to keep ourselves back from taking the next step or even taking a step at all. We find ourselves busy with the mundane, take the apathetic approach or simply settling for less than we truly deserve. We may believe external factors are getting in the way of what we want to accomplish. Deep down you know that this way of being does not allow you to discover and learn new methods of doing things differently that could lead to better and new outcomes.

True change, especially lasting transformational change, requires both taking different actions (doing), and shifting the automatic ways we approach the issue (being). Within a few weeks of coaching, you will begin to see the substantial results, and you will accelerate towards your goals at a much faster pace.

Coaching provides access to those once unattainable outcomes. Learn to take lead in your own future. Eliminate what is currently not working in your life to make space for more fun, fulfillment, and abundance. With an unbridled commitment to your goals, I will coach you and provide you with the tools so you can create the life you are meant to have.

Are You Ready for A Life Coach? Ask Yourself these Important Questions:

  • Am I ready to attain a higher level of performance that makes a difference?
  • Do I aspire to shift my life from managing to becoming a leader?
  • How can I achieve better balance and self-esteem?
  • Ho much do I want to gain clarity and direction for my life’s purpose?
  • Am I wiling to transform myself, grow or even start my own business, or advance my career?
  • Am I stuck in old habits, lacking the motivation and self-confidence to create the life I truly desire?

If you have answered “Yes” to one or more of these crucial questions, than it is time that you seek the help from a professional Life Coach who can help you with a powerful game plan for your own life and goals. Take advantage of my FREE 1 hour consultation to see how we could work together.



When life takes a turn for the worse, or just makes an unexpected change such as a divorce, a new job or moving to a new location, having a Life Coach that can help you build self-confidence may be the difference for a smooth transition.

Although I work with both men and women, as a Life Coach i have tended to work mostly with other women. As a woman, a mother, wife and small business owner, I know the stresses that can surround one in life. Over the last 12 years I have been a practicing Life Coach that emphasizes our spiritual power and goodness. I am not about finding labels, excuses or reasons why life cannot be optimum or even a bit better to start out with.

Self-confidence is the key to turning around any bad situation in an area of life. While no one can completely prevent bad things occurring in life, self-confidence in ourselves and abilities is what we resort to to take on the most difficult of problems. As the Dalai Lama once said, “With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.”

Self-confidence can be built with in a relatively short amount of time with some simple coaching techniques and tailored counseling to address core problems and their sources. These techniques are time-tested and simply need to be understood and applied. Application to real life situations is what I stress with all those wonderful women that I have an opportunity to help and to grow spiritually.

I believe quite sincerely that we have an infinite amount of ability. Moreover, it is my personal conviction that we have a purpose and a reason fro being here. What we do in today will resonate for the rest of our lives, as well as affect the lives and future of ourt family, our local community and event the world around us. To discount our value in this world is not what brings about our greatness and potential. We all deserve a life filled with abundance, fulfillment and love.



After working for years as a detox specialist in Orange County, CA, I decided that my new path as a Life Coach should be announced formally on my blog. My name is Carlie Dearborn and I have now become a trained and certified Life Coach stressing the increase of potential and ability in women. Of course, I will invest in men as well. But I see such a need and a purpose to empower women to become better people, business owners, wives and mothers.

My spiritual journey started right before I met and married my husband in 2000, at which time I started studying the works of L. Ron Hubbard. It was through the study and application of his works and techniques that I found the tools for life that I had been searching for for quite some time. As a result, I have been able to help hundreds upon hundreds of people with their marriages, detox issues and a whole host of problem that seem to affect us all.

Since then I have now started my own family and have two wonderful, bright and energetic children and enjoy a good and sometimes hectic life here in Orange County, CA. I continue my studies in all fields of life, including business, SEO, traveling, health & wellness and the various techniques and methodologies that help elevate our wisdom, health and happiness.

I love working with women who have an ambition to become a better person and a more enlightened spirit. I am all-denominational and so believe that your belief in God is a personal choice. Regardless of your faith or religious affiliation, I respect all people as I believe that we all possess goodness and are trying to live a better, happier life. Women have unique problems and even though Orange County, CA has great weather, the beaches and much financial opportunity, it can be a rat race where we lose our spirituality and our self-esteem.

As a Life Coach who lives and understands the unique spiritual challenges of living and trying to succeed in Orange County, CA, I am here to offer my help and offer my consul. Please feel free to contact me for a free one-hour consultation. We can talk over coffee and discuss your life, your challenges, your personal goals, as well as the ideal state of living that you would like to see yourself living.