Can Temptation Destroy A Marriage?

On March 20, 2013, in marriage, by carlie

We have all felt temptation, the desire to perform an action that one may enjoy immediately or in the short term. We know that we will regret the action of our temptation for various reasons. These can be legal, social, spiritual, health-related, economic, and many other reasons. Temptation also describes the coaxing or inducing a person into committing such an act, by manipulation or otherwise of curiosity, desire or fear of loss.

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More informally, temptation can be defined as, “the state of being attracted and enticed” without anything to do with moral, ethical or ideological implication. In other words, one may say that a piece of cake looks “tempting” even though eating it would result in no negative consequences. There are degrees of being tempted and what we are examining are the long-term consequences to a marriage, or even one’s happiness and self-esteem.

Can Temptation Destroy A Marriage?

As a marriage counselor who has helped many couples with marriage counseling, life coaching and self-improvement courses, I know that temptation can lead to more than just thoughts. Unfortunately, these temptations become yielded to and become actions that we commonly refer to as “sins”. When we do commit actions against our marital partner, we begin to feel bad and even critical towards them to lessen our harm, we attempt to lessen the value and importance of that person in our life. This is what is behind carping criticism in a marriage.

How Do You Salvage A Marriage

When a marriage is falling apart, on the brink of separation or divorce, it can be quite a daunting task to put one back together. The first step is to establish a goal with both partners of the marriage that something should be done. Regardless of the outcome, we need to get communication established and rational dialogue occurring, especially if there are children in the picture.

Through a series of marriage counseling sessions and some powerful courses on communication, integrity and other life tools, we can build back the trust that was once there. Again, this not necessarily easy nor is a rose-colored road. There are bumps in that road to redemption, but it is a road that can be walked with success at the other end.

 The First Step With A Marriage Counselor

The first step to to contact me for a free consultation. We can meet for an hour or so, discuss the issues, and allow this time to let you see if you are comfortable in working with me. Call me to set an appointment or visit my Google+ Local page for more information.

Marital Problems & Reasons For Divorce

On February 1, 2013, in marriage counseling, by carlie

Marital problems have become a growing problem in America.  Having helped many couples to sort through and identify the sources of what is causing the demise of their marriage, I have found these to be the top reasons for divorce.  

Financial Stress

Mounting bills and all the headaches it can bring to our lives can become a major source of marital problems.  Money is a very passionate subject and can bring conflict to the life of any couple.  Knowledge and use of practical financial tools, adhered to as policy by both, is the best safeguard to the all too common bankrupt and miserable couple filing for divorce.

Alcohol Abuse

Alcohol is the most abused substance in Orange County, California.  Police are called most frequently not for burglaries or violent crimes, but for domestic disputes and alcohol-related incidents. Excessive alcohol most often leads to destructive behavior. Utilizing the tools and valuable life skills offered by a life coach is important for individuals falling into bad habits that can ultimately wind up in severe unhappiness for their marriage.

The Blame Game

In a marriage the first target of blame tends to be the marital partner.  Yet when one takes a closer look, one or the other, or both, can simply be unaware of basic important factors required for a successful marriage.  I strongly urge couples who want to salvage their marriage to take a course on how to maintain a successful marriage. This course provides a mutual foundation, putting both spouses in a position to help create the success of the marriage as a whole.

How Do I Repair My Marriage? 

The first step is to seek a consultation with a competent professional. Having helped many people with a variety of personal and marital problems, I look forward to meeting with you and discussing the solutions that are available.